It can be so amazing to hear “I love you” from someone you love and care about. However, I’m the type who always wants more. For example, a specific compliment, a hug, dinner out, undivided attention, or help with chores. Since we get what give here are some ways to put love into action and get more love.
“My dear children, let’s not just talk about love; let’s practice real love. This is the only way we’ll know we’re living truly, living in God’s reality. It’s also the way to shut down debilitating self-criticism, even when there is something to it. For God is greater than our worried hearts and knows more about us than we do ourselves.”
1 John 3:18-20 MSG
I find it difficult to give to others if I haven’t taken care of me. Not only is okay to practice self-love, it’s a necessity. Beating ourselves up doesn't help anyone. Here are some self-love ideas to get you started:
- Create a positive affirmation and repeat it to yourself.
Give yourself a hug or better yet a foot massage.
Treat yourself to a piece of chocolate or a new pair of shoes.
Take a moment for yourself and just be, no sounds, no activity, just breathe.
Create a simple system that will improve your daily life. For example, if you struggle to get up on time in the morning, place the alarm across the room so you have to get out of bed to turn it off.
Spouse / Significant Other
I once did a thirty-day challenge of encouraging my husband and it was very beneficial for both of us. It can be so easy take people for granted and assume people know they are loved. Here are some ideas to put that love into action.
- Say thank you! Thank you for your love, for taking out the trash, for providing for our family….
Give hugs, kisses and hold hands. Extra bonuses for back rubs.
Give the gift of indulgence. Create the environment so they can indulge in their favorite pastime. Let them sleep in or enjoy a night out.
Don’t look at your phone or device when they’re in the room.
Clean their car for them.
Other Family / Friends
Brotherly love is important too. Let the people you see regularly know they are loved too.
- Give a genuine compliment. Thank them for an impact they have had on your life.
Give a hug or a pat on the back.
Treat them to a cup of coffee.
Listen to them while they vent without judgment or thinking of how you’re going to respond.
Help them clean out their closet or pack for a move.
As wonderful as it is to hear the words “I love you”, seeing that love in action is sometimes even better. What’s your favorite way to show love or have someone show they love you? Please share in the comments below.